Never hate your enemies. It affects your judgment.
– Mario Puzo
Mental Illnesses are brain-based disorders that affect emotions, thoughts and behavioral patterns. We’re all humans and at some point we experience suffering that affects our brain. Around 450 million people suffer from such varied conditions, that is why mental disorders are among the chief causes of disability and ill-health worldwide. Treatment is possible but approximately two-thirds of patients with a recognized mental disorder never consult a professional. Discrimination and negligence and the fear of being judged are the main causes.
Mental disorders and how every Person is Responding:
Despite the many symptoms of mental disorders, families who have a member suffering from a mental illness, share comparable experiences. Some people are trying to deny the symptoms of mental diseases, worrying about what other people would think, because like The Joker said: “People are starting to notice” and some conveniently choose to ignore. I mean, we are clearly living for others than ourselves. Now, we have to acknowledge that this thought pattern happens in the best of us, because life is such.
Patients with such illness exhibit antisocial behavior, they really go through a quiet experience, not just their state of mind, but with their physical reflexes too. Some people are severely anxious and burst into tears with even the smallest issues and then later feel embarrassed because they reacted so. It is definitely not what they wish to portrait I assure you but most times, they can’t control their emotions. Darling, if you are one of them, it’s absolutely okay to feel that way. Life is generally overwhelming, but having said that, it is imperative that you seek help from a professional only to guide you in the light of courage to overcome it.
Most concerns with the mind aren’t easy discussions, hence the promotion of non-judgemental professionals! Voila! Louis Armstrong did sing, “I see trees of green, red roses too, I see them bloom for me and you, and I think to myself, what a wonderful world”, totally his perspective that he sang out to put a little hope in the universe, but he also said : “Unless you know what it is, I ain’t never going to be able to explain it to you. People always mostly have an opinion, if they don’t want to sometimes, and the power we give them to have their thoughts rule over our lives is uncanny. This one time, I was sitting in a coffee-shop minding my own. Was actually writing a song you know, a song on why I don’t really like coffee, Meh! My opinion guys, leave me alone. Anyway, back to the story. So, this girl walks up to me and says: “Hey, You! I like what you’re wearing, those colors are a good blend, but have you considered upping your taste in shoes?” And I from hating coffee went to hating..
My shoes…! Arghhhh., But you see, her opinion, or more so judgement became my validation of ‘not good enough’ and it took me a good 8 months to win myself back to loving the shoes I was comfortable sporting. Mental patients get stuck on negative feelings, focusing on the evil aspects of their condition, indulging in negative thoughts and making no room for encouragement in their minds. Positive thoughts should be encouraged and negative thoughts thrown completely into the bin, whether you’re suffering from a mental illness or not.
If you really wanna judge people, study law.
Despite our best efforts to avoid judging others, we end up doing it unknowingly. We either judge them for how lesser than us they are or for how much more better! Either way we judge. If you’re at this point thinking, ‘Well no way! I don’t think I actually judge anyone. I’m a more ‘live and let live’ kinda person. Well what happened the last time when you made that comment at the delivery guy being late or just the fact your internet speed isn’t what was promised and it was totally the fault of the guy that merely sold it to you?
Take a min to understand why your judgements are most certainly not the same as reality? Please? (yes, i’m being polite in asking you to “SHUT UP AND LEAVE PEOPLE ALONE”) tsk tsk.. Excuse me..
Lack of information
None of our opinions are based on facts. Hence they are opinions, that are formed before you even discover ‘THE FACT’. Could we wait a tad bit before we throw the kitchen sink at each other? Yes yes, huge rom-com fan. Mmm, I kinda just heard a judgement! Did you?
What you’d want for yourself in order to function in good spirit is what everyone else wants for themselves. You wanna voice your opinion, go ahead, coz ‘freedom of speech’ right? Can’t pay you to shut up. But before you do, wait till you at least know the full story. I’m sure it ain’t half as predictable as you think. You would have wanted the same if your stomach was upset from the old lasagne you had last night and took a little extra time in the washroom, forcing your colleague to start the presentation you made, because your boss was a jerk! Yessss, I did, because I told you, we judge irrespective. But.. but.. bosses are mostly jerks.
It’s an awful feeling to feel judged you guys, especially one that’s backed with no thought.
We’re all different and so is our stories. Our interests are mostly never the same grade of an activity, even if you shared love for a similar activity.
Acceptance and tolerance
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
These are the good moral values. There are numerous ways to build self tolerance. When someone wrongs you, and realises they did so, they’ve achieved half their battles and your kindness to forgive them for it could just about bring them into sunshine. This way, you’re also helping them not to lose their faith in humanity. 
How Important it is to be Kind
First of all, because it makes you feel good about yourself. Seriously, pause on this read, take a moment to do something and kind and tell us how you feel in your comments below. It’s also a give and get thing type of feeling, like respect.
Now, some think that by being kind, you’re naive or weak. I promise you, you often require all the strength and courage you have to be so. It is certainly an interpersonal skill. No one takes the same time as you to recover or feel better. We all function differently right? Darwin believed that we are a profoundly social and caring species. He argued that sympathy and caring for others is instinctual (DiSalvo, Scientific American, 2017)
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Did you feel judged today? Share your experiences on how it makes you feel in the comment section below.