More often, we make time for people around us only when we have the time, not when they really need it. Unfortunately, your clock isn’t the same as theirs. Sometimes it’s the middle of the night and sometimes it’s during broad daylight. You see, Stress is always an uninvited guest that chooses to come and go whenever it likes and stays like it’s rent’s been paid in advance! Fuff, get the message Stress!
I mean, it’s kinda like that aunt of yours who chooses to call you only when you need to be reminded of marriage, or that Ex, who still drinks to have hangovers because of your thoughts, or that cashier at the store, who’s always asking you “Is that all, Sir? Or would you like anything more?” Argh! Why can’t they all just Shut up, and No thank you madam, if I wanted anything more, it would have been in my cart right now!
Stress happens to the best of us and for reasons unfathomed incessantly. The quick resort isn’t to judge why, but to pay attention to how the mind and body wants to feel through it and after it. These are times when gifts are such a ‘feel good’ element, more to give than receive. It’s not necessarily a holiday thing you know!
A few things you could do to brighten their day 🙂
Invite yourself over to their place for a movie!
People who are stressed mostly find reasons to shun away from it and pick up stuff to do or they completely drown it with an album of Frank Sinatra or the incredible Mohammed Rafi Saheb. Now, one thing most don’t want to do is have company around them, not because they want to be left alone, but they don’t like to ask.
Have to put on the ‘Strength Mask’ you see? I wonder why Body Shop doesn’t sell that flavour though.
Anyway, you’ve got Netflix! So, drive yourself to your friend’s place in your comfy pajamas. If you plan on picking up some wine on the way, even better, but remember to take a cab. Don’t drink and drive. Surprise them, open that bottle of goodness you bought, or simply make them some hot tea, play that movie and enjoy some ‘You and Them’ time. You don’t need to explain why you’re doing this to them. Sometimes, it really helps not to talk.
Ps : Don’t dress up for this visit! Your friend’s stress burns would only burn harder!
Gift them a journal
Our ego’s don’t allow us to share much with people. We kinda always want to channel our inner Lizzo. But a journal doesn’t speak back to you, it just listens. Buy them a sweet book or a fun journal so they could pen their thoughts each time there’s one! That way, they get a chance to vent and you get a chance to skip the drama!
Ps : Leave the ruled books for the kids at school. Buy them an actual journal.
The magic scents can create. You know, we always put a scent to our memories. Uhhhh, Vishu smelt like wood, tsk tsk. Oh! That room in Bali smelt of lavender. Well, it is always easy to relax the mind with some essential oils, just used in a diffuser or smeared onto the skin. It calms the mind immediately introducing thoughts of serenity. Buy them a tiny bottle of Ocean Breeze or Bergamot Orange.
Ps : Don’t actually do wood. Essential oils could cause unnecessary burns!
Book them a massage
When you call that friend and be like “Bae, get dressed. I’m taking you for a massage” the immediate response is “Oh, no way! Massage!! That’s really expensive, but how sweet of you to think” When all they’re thinking is “Ohhhhh, I need those hands on me now” Focus on the masseuse please?
Call their favorite place, book them a massage and let the masseuse focus on making them happy! Wow, you really did go there? Dang!
Ps : Make sure you buy them what you can afford. It’s not how expensive it is, but the thought that counts.
Oh the times I’ve made excuses to buy my favorite flavours and light them all around the house even though the smoke detector hates them! Don’t ask.
Anyhoo, Candles bring in a sense of calm, by the bedside or during that bubble bath most people love taking when they’re stressed. Simply send them a box of scented candles that are colorful. They actually burn negative thoughts you know?
Ps : If you can’t afford one, then just be the fire. Light up their life (wink wink)
Leave them encouragement notes. Yassss, everywhere!
Not everyone’s got time to read long messages especially when all they feel like is to be disconnected for a while. We’re talking about “Hey, who’s incharge of Heaven, when you’re here?” Meh, cheesy, I know! How about “Hang in there” or “It’s going to get better” Surprise encouragement notes make the heart flutter. And before you know, your 16th encouragement note, actually did win a whole smile 🙂
Ps : Don’t be creepy though!
Dedicate a song on the radio
Hmmm, back in the day, everytime my dad had a teeny fight with Ma, he’d call the radio and dedicate Mumma’s fav song to cheer her up with the best msg ever! Dad was a poet when it came to winning women over! Well, with our lives on the fast lane, when was the last time we actually did that for someone?
Ps : Radio’s may not work anymore, But Radio Stations do 🙂
Send them a pot of faux succulents
Plants around the living space are known to ground energies. They also seem to purify the air around you including your aura, which we all need consistently, given the news around us day-to-day. This will also give them a sense of responsibility. A plant needs to be taken care of just as their mental health is.
Ps : Cactus ain’t the right choice even if you didn’t get what you wanted from them.
The expression ‘Cold feet’ is real you know. Happens to the best of us at most certainly when you don’t expect it. Send them a pair of the cutest or most fun socks ever. Just like the soul needs a hot cuppa, the sole definitely could use the warmth.
Ps : No ankle socks please! It could slip outta their feet while they roll in bed.
Cook them a meal
Is maggi your only magic in the kitchen? *Slow clapping for ya buddy* It feels good to make a little effort for the ones we care about, even if that calls for small burns from that stove you don’t seem to know how to turn on. The internet is our sky, google a fun recipe and make it all by yourself. They also say ‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’ Wo-man too!
Ps : No, a cup of hot water doesn’t count.
We all think we’re too old to be kids. But I assure you, it is they, that DO NOT understand what stress means. Invite people over for a game of Monopoly. Gift your stressed friend your time and that positive energy you so seamlessly carry. The world always needs a friend like you.
Ps : You might wanna let them win. Just this one time I Promise.
Buy them a comfy t-shirt
We all love ourselves some soft, oversized comfy t-shirts, where we can wear just that and walk around the house. The feeling is bliss! I’m wearing one right now, while I write this for you. They feel like that friend who’s always there and who isn’t annoying.
Ps : Don’t steal one from your dad.
Gift them some space
Not everyone wants to talk about how stressed they are, some like to take their own time to heal. Sometimes all they want is to get away from your face, because you keep forgetting to trim that nostril hair!
Hey, remember. We’ve all got good days and bad days, sometimes you’ve chosen to take some time off of things too. It doesn’t need to mean anything but SPACE. Don’t dig too hard, space in good proportions is worthy and hey, didn’t they say ignorance was bliss anyway?
Ps : No, You are not on a break. Rachel is always right.
Gift them a furry friend
Stress is the beginning of different kinds of depression. Furry friends have magical powers to kiss away worries. Their cuddles are priceless and their energies are spiritual. If your friend seems to be going through a really hard time, get to the shelter (yes, always adopt) and hook them up with a fine furry paw or purr works too.
Ps : There are so many furry blessings that need a home.
Make an Unclutter Date
The best time to actually clean that closet is when you’re stressed and can’t think about functioning in your normal routine, and if they have company to help them clean up, Woo-hoo! This is what pajamas live for, if they could ever speak.
Offer to clean up their personal spaces, put on your favorite jam and throw those ex’s memories away!
A – uncluttering the space, declutters your mind and B – your friend may finally find that underwear they were looking for!
Ps : Pizza’s taste yumm at these times!