Embracing change is difficult, but we’ve got your back!
From Dalgona coffee to watching Amitabh Bachan promote his latest movie on Instagram, it’s been a roller coaster ride. I am sure all of us have heard or read the phrase “Change is inevitable” in every motivational Instagram page, those obscenely thick books on philosophy and of course from our heartbroken friends who are desperate to find the true meaning of life because “Bro, what will I do in life now?”.
But truth be told we all have to come face to face with the question of change at least once in our lives and it is that period that we struggle with the most (and no! We are not talking about a change in your hair colour or wardrobe, although those too are very important changes!)
We are looking at two kinds of changes in our life. One that is unexpected and unwanted (finding out that you are going to live through a pandemic, duh!), and the second one is planned, a change that you have prepared yourself for (you finally coming to terms with the fact that you are NOT single anymore).
It is very natural to resist the unexpected change because that can be dramatic, challenging, and uncomfortable. It also depends on how we deal with that change individually. If that unexpected change is dealt with an open mind coupled with a flexible approach, it can prove to be beneficial otherwise it can bring discomfort and setbacks. But hey, why can’t we focus more on how to deal with that change in a positive way?
These unexpected changes can catch us off guard and it may seem like our world has turned upside down (ask those who say the earth is flat!). We often tell our friends “This too shall pass.”, so yes, this is not permanent either. This change will only make you emotionally and physically mature and smarter. It is completely ok to feel tired, frustrated and lost in between but you don’t have to go through it alone if you seek a shoulder to rely on and who can share a slice of pizza with you!
It’s understandable why most of us don’t like change, we are so used to the already existing comfortable life that we don’t realize that embracing change is not just important but essential too.
2020 is one of the most difficult changes all of us had to go through (thankfully together). A special shoutout to those of us who are away from home and are trying their best to feel at home, more love, and power to you.
We are all getting used to working from home to virtual dates, attending classes with our videos off, binge-watching, and eating all day and night.
It’s time to address the elephant in the room.
Corona came to us overnight!
One day we were complaining about the traffic, work, and the next day we were on our way to our hometowns, uneasy and upset about the whole situation. Most of us are scattered across the country right now, separated from our family and friends. These are trying times, even for those who are privileged enough to have a comfortable quarantine experience, because for over three months the chaotic routine and the freedom of our normal lives have been taken away from us.
Most of us had a stable routine in our love lives and families– we would try to find each other at the end of the day no matter what.
So naturally, when we were thrown into a long-distance relationship of sorts out of the blue, we were lost.
We won’t be finding our way back for at least a couple of more months, (this is us accepting our change) so we had to figure out ways of being together with a couple of hundred miles between us.
Here are a few fun ways which can help you stay connected with your loved ones far and near
- Communicate more and communicate openly. Of course, we understand that virtual communication can be difficult for some, but staying connected right now with your loved ones is SO important ( We are practically surviving on our video calls).
- Thank heavens for Netflix Party which is available on Chrome and Opera. This syncs your streaming devices with your friends and is super easy to figure out. You can jazz things up by selective quirky avatars for yourselves and chat with your friends when a super cringe scene comes on screen.
- Ludoooo, you knew we would talk about ludo. We have breathed new life to this classic game. You can play with your family and force your friends and partners to play online or offline. Yes, you can buy the ludo board and those coins from your nearest pan shops still.
- Create masterpieces and go wild with it (of course keeping the pandemic in mind). Make stunning art pieces, cook mouthwatering dishes, make your most hilarious quarantine edits, practice dance routines by dressing as your parents, and vice versa. A family that laughs together stays together (it’s a fact, look it up, Karen!).
Now that we have already spoken about how we can deal with the new normal, it’s time to drop the big gun HOW CAN WE BRING OURSELF TO EMBRACE CHANGE?
Acknowledge that there is something in your life that requires change. It could be a change in your lifestyle, friends, and family who are harmful to your mental and physical health or becoming more conscious about climate change.
Keep an open mind, change is not always evil. We need to change our perspective about change (see what I did there?!) The more we fight it, the more difficult it gets, and like our Dadis and Nanis say, “Waqt ke saath sab kuch theek hojata hai bacche”. So just give it time, and remember everyone is in this together and if you ever happen to find yourself alone, always remember that your closest people are always a ping away.
Acceptance is another key player in accepting change. We know it is easier said than done, but the sooner we accept change, the easier our lives get. Always remember good, bad, evil, noble everything changes!
Be kind to yourself during this transition phase. We, humans, are a funny breed, we often tend to become our worst enemies. But now’s not the time for that, be kind and fair to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up because you are changing or that the world around you is changing. You are doing the best you can.
(Yes we are aware of our obsession with the word C-H-A-N-G-E)
Sometimes we are left with no choice but to embrace change and of course you can always crib and complain about the changing circumstances once in a while, but don’t be aversed to the idea of change because let’s face it we all have changed from our past selves and there is so much more left to change. Our puberty pictures are the best examples of our changing selves!